Here we share our thoughts on life, love, relationships, family, sex, emotions, health, and anything else we think others might find interesting (or not!). We also share articles and videos that have resonated with us.
The need for greater support in coming off antidepressants
Antidepressant withdrawal needs to be taken more seriously. Antidepressants certainly have their place as part of a wider treatment plan. But more needs to be done to help people understand the impact of coming off them. If people come off them too quickly they are likely to suffer from debilitating withdrawal symptoms, like agitation, anixety,…
Can you really have fantastic sex after years together?
Is it really possible to have fantastic sex with your partner if you’ve been together for a long time? I see so many people, couples and individuals, who are worried that they’re not having as much sex as they used to have with their partner. Or in a lot cases, as much as they think…
Sustaining a sexual connection
I love this short TED talk by Emily Nagoski about sustaining a sexual connection: Sustaining sex over a lifetime. Her two rules for sustaining a sexual connection over the long term are simple: Maintain friendship as the very foundation of your relationship, and Prioritise sex. Emily is a brilliant sex educator whose “mission in life…
Me and my shadow…
Like it or not, we all have a part of ourselves that we try and suppress because it is often in conflict with our public facing image. It was Carl Jung, one of the founders of psychotherapy and a friend of Freud, who developed the idea of a ‘shadow’ self, using it alongside ‘persona’ – derived from Latin for theatrical…
Learning to love my anxiety
Anxiety has been part of my life for as long as I can remember. It’s only recently that I’ve come to accept that it always will be. I was raised by a mother who had ‘bad nerves’ – which we both now know means she suffers from severe anxiety and depression. She, in turn, had to tiptoe…
Love the person, hate the addict
Five people I have loved have been addicts. Their addictions were different (alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography) but in my experience what they were addicted to was irrelevant; an addict’s behaviour seems to be the same regardless. They lied, they deceived, they stole, they were angry and abusive. They ripped my heart out, time and time…
Lessons in love
It would be reasonable to say that I’ve had my fair share of relationships. So what have I learnt? For a start, you can’t make someone love you or want to be with you, no matter how much you want it or how hard you try. Love isn’t something you can force, it happens of…
Instant grief – just add social media
Like millions of others I was appalled by the despicable acts of terrorism that killed so many people in Paris on 13 November and destroyed the lives of those who loved them. Thoughts of what happened and why, as well as the ramifications it has triggered, have played heavy on my mind this week. As…
What’s it all about?
I’ve been thinking of sharing my ruminations on life for a long time. But who would be interested? Where should I start? Isn’t it all a bit narcissistic? Would it be too risqué/boring/pretentious/unenlightening? The list of self-defeating adjectives is endless. Because that’s what most of us are good at. Bigging up others and putting ourselves down. Today I thought, “get…