Skip to content
Icon

Your Time To Talk

Relationship and sex therapy | Counselling

Counselling

Can you really have fantastic sex after years together?

By Diane | October 30, 2019

Is it really possible to have fantastic sex with your partner if you’ve been together for a long time? I see so many people, couples and individuals, who are worried that they’re not having as much sex as they used to  have with their partner. Or in a lot cases, as much as they think…

Read More

Am I sharing too much?

By Diane | July 1, 2018

It’s been a while. I’ve been pondering on whether I should keep blogging, on why I wanted to do it in the first place. Off-loading? Therapy? Narcissism? Wanting to let others know it’s OK to not have life sussed? One of the first ‘rules’ I learnt in my training as a counsellor was not to…

Read More

Would I lie to you?

By Diane | February 21, 2017

If honestly really is the best policy, why do we lie? No use pretending you don’t. We all do, to varying degrees. How many times have you heard (or said), “If I told the truth, it would break their heart”, “It’s better that they never know the truth” or, perhaps, “What they don’t know won’t hurt them”? Lying…

Read More

It’s not you, it’s them…

By Diane | January 3, 2017

“Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the life out of you..” I saw this quote on Facebook today and it made me think of all the emotional vampires I’ve encountered. You know, the people who suck the happiness out of you. Being around them is exhausting because they need constant attention.…

Read More

It’s just a phase I’m going through

By Diane | March 6, 2016

I’m rapidly approaching 50 and have been reflecting on my life so far: Phase 1 – childhood, setting the scene. A time of learning, exploring, freedom and fun. Looking back (with the support of my counsellor), I can now see that it was the time when my psychological map was drawn, when I learnt to be…

Read More

More than a mother

By Diane | January 16, 2016

My mum. She’s loving, generous, supportive and a  bit bonkers! She’s got a wicked sense of humour and hair the colour of smoked salmon (always has had). She’s opinionated, speaks her mind and, in her own words, doesn’t suffer fools gladly. She was born in 1936 and grew up in East London during the blitz…

Read More

Learning to love my anxiety

By Diane | December 23, 2015

Anxiety has been part of my life for as long as I can remember. It’s only recently that I’ve come to accept that it always will be. I was raised by a mother who had ‘bad nerves’ – which we both now know means she suffers from severe anxiety and depression. She, in turn, had to tiptoe…

Read More

Shut the f**k up!

By Diane | November 12, 2015

On the whole, being married to a super-fit triathlete eight years younger than me is great. Aside from him being an all-round good bloke, I’m proud of his sporting achievements and dedication to keeping fit and healthy. And the fact that he’s pretty hot is an added bonus! But there are times when his youth…

Read More

What’s it all about?

By Diane | November 8, 2015

I’ve been thinking of sharing my ruminations on life for a long time. But who would be interested? Where should I start? Isn’t it all a bit narcissistic? Would it be too risqué/boring/pretentious/unenlightening? The list of self-defeating adjectives is endless. Because that’s what most of us are good at. Bigging up others and putting ourselves down. Today I thought, “get…

Read More
Scroll To Top